Unexpected

Unexpected

I’ve adapted Amy Johnson Crow’s 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks challenge.
Each week I follow my children’s ahnentafel numbering to select the featured ancestor, ensuring no one through the mid–sixth generation is left behind.

52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: 2026 Week 15: Unexpected

Introduction

My Week 15 ancestor is Edith Makey West. When I thought about the theme “Unexpected,” I realized that her life was shaped by unexpected mothering in many forms: first when her aunt stepped in after her mother’s death, then when a stepmother took on that role, and later when Grandma herself helped raise my generation.

Discussion

We say, “It takes a village to raise a child,” but it really did in many ways. Grandma’s mother died when she and her siblings were young children, and her mother’s married, childless sister, Aunt Edith, stepped in to help raise the three of them. Grandma remained very fond of Aunt Edith and Uncle Peter for the rest of her life. Aunt Edith died relatively young, but my uncle remembered Uncle Peter, so clearly the families remained close.

Once Grandma’s father remarried, he and his new wife brought the children back and informed them, “This is your mother now.” Grandma did, in fact, treat the woman as a mother, including caring for her after Grandma’s dad passed away. When Grandma told me family stories, she would mention, “My mother” and I would clarify that she meant her stepmother. (Not to be mean, of course, but I wanted to attribute the family stories to the right person.)

Finally, after my mother left my father and took us with her, she went home to her parents. Grandma helped raise us while my mother secured her footing, returned to the workforce, gained financial stability, and generally settled into single parenting. I never, ever heard Grandma issue the slightest complaint about all this new responsibility for a retired couple.

Summary

Grandma once told me, while recounting the family history, that the men in her family had it tough. I told her I thought the women did too; they were simply expected to endure, adapt, and keep going.

What feels most unexpected to me is not a hidden record or a family story proven true, but the way mothering kept taking new forms in Grandma’s life. After losing her own mother, she was cared for by Aunt Edith. Later, a stepmother took on that role in the household. And when her own daughter needed help, Grandma stepped in to help raise the next generation. In the end, the unexpected discovery is that in our family, mothering was not always about who had the title, but about who showed up.

Walter, Harry, and Edith Makey

AI Disclosure

This post was created by me with the help of AI tools. While AI helps organize research, the storytelling and discoveries are my own.

Next Week’s Topic: A Quiet Life

A Brick Wall Shifted

I’ve adapted Amy Johnson Crow’s 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks challenge.
Each week I follow my children’s ahnentafel numbering to select the featured ancestor, ensuring no one through the mid–sixth generation is left behind.

52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: 2026 Week 14: A Brick Wall Revisited

Introduction

My assigned Week 14 ancestor is A. Gordon West.  About a year ago, I wrote a post about an unexpected DNA match.

This man was definitely related on my maternal grandfather’s (Ohio) line. Due to a rather unique surname and fairly recent immigration, his tree was easy enough to build out – and it didn’t intersect at all with mine, in terms of names. But it did in locations. I was left wondering if there was a MPE (misattributed parentage event) on either Grandpa’s line or this match’s line. Both men had somewhat suspiciously old mothers (age 40, with a gap to the next oldest children – certainly not impossible, but worth a second look) in their lineage.

Then vs. Now

Then: I didn’t chase that challenge down, having been disheartened by finding the death of the match. I suppose I didn’t want to find something offbeat in my own line. And I was uncertain how to be confident in any conclusion.

Now: I’m taking a DNA class in IGHR and this is the perfect time to look with a critical eye at these matches again. I’m learning and relearning the frameworks, and not just the basics but some good details on Y-DNA, mtDNA, atDNA, and X-DNA. Our exercises include analyzing our own matches and clustering shared matches to identify common ancestors.  We’ve also used The Shared cM Project 4.0 tool v4 to make sure centiMorgans were within the appropriate range. I noticed that I have a lot more matches than I did the last time I looked, so clearly more people have tests posted on the testing sites.

It’s definitely worth revisiting, with new knowledge and new data, to see what linkages I can now make.

The Plan

I’m going to revisit each shared match between him and me and build out trees to the best of my ability. I’ll draw pedigree charts, determine expected amounts of DNA shared, and compare those to the actual amounts. Somewhere there I hope to find a discrepancy, and that will be the key to this mystery.

Was I really stuck?

I wasn’t stuck because there’s no answer. I was stuck because I did not yet have the knowledge and data to solve the problem. Now, maybe, I do. And that changes how I see this brick wall: not as a barrier, but as something that can shift over time.

Sometimes a brick wall isn’t solved – it’s outgrown.

AI Disclosure

This post was created by me with the help of AI tools. While AI helps organize research, the storytelling and discoveries are my own.

Next Week’s Topic: Unexpected

A Family Pattern: Tall Tales

A Family Pattern: Tall Tales

I’ve adapted Amy Johnson Crow’s 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks challenge.
Each week I follow my children’s ahnentafel numbering to select the featured ancestor, ensuring no one through the mid–sixth generation is left behind.

52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: 2026 Week 13: A Family Pattern

Introduction

My assigned Week 13 ancestor is Rose Carey Anderson—my grandmother—and the family pattern I associate most strongly with her is a little light-hearted: tall tales.

Discussion

As soon as I developed a love for family history, my grandmother Rose was eager to regale me with family story after family story.

The problem is, they were all tall tales.

The baby brother who died in a fall down the stairs? Actually polio.

The uncle who disappeared one day, never to be seen again? He had drowned—and his body was brought back to his mother’s house.

The other uncle, the firefighter who died in a fire in the firehouse? (Wow.) Was what the newspapers called a “hobo” and died in a fire in a barn he was crashing in.

Her grandfather who had to leave Ireland or be hung as a horse thief? Almost certainly not.

Grandma’s pattern eventually became clear to me and it became a challenge to disprove each story about the family’s past, and really, I did.

For years, I treated these stories like puzzles, something to investigate and, more often than not, disprove.

But I wasn’t smart enough to put two and two and realize that the tales she told me about the current family might not stand up to examination either.

“F__’s last two children weren’t his.” Maybe. Maybe not.

“C__’s dad wasn’t her dad.” I was not given enough info and will never know.

“M__ was having an affair when he died.” Another thing I’ll never know.

So, I am pretty confident Grandma is looking down on me laughing at the wild goose chases I’ve been on!

And honestly, she’d probably still tell the stories the same way.

Summary

When I was a girl, “Trust but verify” was a popular saying, and it’s something any genealogist worth their research notes would do well to remember.

AI Disclosure

This post was created by me with the help of AI tools. While AI helps organize research, the storytelling and discoveries are my own.

Next Week’s Topic: A Brick Wall Revisited

An Address With a Story

An Address With a Story

I’ve adapted Amy Johnson Crow’s 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks challenge.
Each week I follow my children’s ahnentafel numbering to select the featured ancestor, ensuring no one through the mid–sixth generation is left behind.

52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: 2026 Week 12: An Address With a Story

Introduction

My assigned Week 12 ancestor is my paternal grandfather, Edward Anderson (1912–1985).

I’ve only ever known Grandpa to live at 60 Hillview Street, in Naugatuck, Connecticut. Of course, that wasn’t always the case – and it wasn’t even the plan.

Discussion

Grandpa was orphaned just days before his twelfth birthday. He and his two sisters were separated, each sent to different places. Grandma told me he lived with Uncle Jim and Aunt Lena for a time, but he seemed to spend much of his youth in “a home” – likely an orphanage, possibly St. Michael’s Home in Staten Island, New York.

By 1930, I found him as a young man rooming with two other young men, perhaps also without family support. He was working for a “rubber house,” where I believe he remained for the rest of his career.

By the next federal census, he had married, and he and his bride were living in Manhattan. They were still there in 1950.

Not long after, they moved to Staten Island, where I believe they purchased their first home.

At some point, Grandpa’s employer wanted to relocate him, but they chose not to go. The next time the company asked, Grandma told me, they felt they couldn’t refuse – they would be risking the household’s only income.

That decision brought them to Naugatuck, Connecticut, home of the United States Rubber Company. They bought what they considered a starter home: two bedrooms, one bath, and no expectation that it would be permanent.

Yet something about the house suited them. They made it their own. Grandpa lived the remaining 20 years of his life there, and Grandma stayed another 24 after that.

What they thought would be temporary became their forever home.

When my younger cousin once asked me for memories of Grandpa (she had been only a preschooler when he died) I told her about the walks he would take me on through that neighborhood. They knew their neighbors. Family settled nearby. It felt like a place where they had finally found peace.

I believe they were happy in that home.

Figure 1 Image from realtor.com

Challenge

What address has a special connection for you?

AI Disclosure

This post was created by me with the help of AI tools. While AI helps organize research, the storytelling and discoveries are my own.

Next Week’s Topic: A Family Pattern

A Turning Point

I’ve adapted Amy Johnson Crow’s 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks challenge.
Each week I follow my children’s ahnentafel numbering to select the featured ancestor, ensuring no one through the mid–sixth generation is left behind.

52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: 2026 Week 11: A Turning Point

Introduction

My assigned Week 11 ancestor is Ida Rabinowitz.

On July 31, 1912, Ida arrived at Ellis Island with her four daughters. They had crossed the Atlantic to reunite with her husband Sam, who had been living in New York for five years[1]. Based on the dates, it seems likely he had never even met their youngest child.

It should have been a joyful reunion.

Instead, everything fell apart.

Ida was deemed too ill to admit because of an eye infection. She would be deported.

The weather that day was beautiful — a low of 63°F and a high of 77°F.[2] But for Ida, it must have felt like the worst day of her life.

She now faced an impossible choice: Should she take her daughters back across the ocean with her… or leave them with a father they barely knew?

Discussion

You may recognize this story from last week’s post, which told it from Sam’s perspective. But how gut-wrenching it must have been for Ida!

If you remember his story from last week, you’ll know that Ida left the girls with their dad. With family assistance, he was able to care for them. Ida eventually “snuck back into” the United States.

She was traumatized enough that she never let Sam naturalize, out of fear that her undocumented status would be discovered.

That beautiful-turned-terrible July day was a turning point for that family, and its reverberations were felt for generations.

I like to think Ida held her head high, knowing she had made the sacrifice for her children.

Challenge

What turning points has your family experienced? Knowing what you know now, would you make the same choices?
Knowing what they knew then, would you?

Want to Learn More?

Ellis Island – Overview + History

AI Disclosure

This post was created by me with the help of AI tools. While AI helps organize research, the storytelling and discoveries are my own.

Next Week’s Topic: An Address With a Story


[1] S.S. Vaderland, arr. Jul 31 1912 from Antwerp left Jul 20 1912 “Page 657”, stamped p. 153

[2] https://www.extremeweatherwatch.com/cities/new-york/year-1912#july

Changed My Thinking

Changed My Thinking

I’ve adapted Amy Johnson Crow’s 52 ancestors in 52 weeks challenge.

Each week’s post follows my children’s ahnentafel numbering, which determines the featured ancestor.

This ensures no one until mid-sixth generation gets left behind.

52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: 2026 Week 10: Changed My Thinking

Introduction

My assigned Week 10 ancestor is Samuel Goode (born Gudelski). He married in what is now Lithuania in 1899, and he and his wife Ida had four daughters. According to family stories, the Russian army drafted Sam, and he emigrated alone to the United States.

The intention was to work, earn money, settle in, and then send for his wife and daughters, which he did five years later, in 1912. Ida and their daughters aged 10, 8, 6, and 4 arrived, but Ida was turned away due to an eye infection, something immigration officials feared could be trachoma.

But the girls were allowed in. What was a Jewish scholar – now working as a peddler – to do with four young daughters? He sent Hannah, to his married sister Yetta, and kept the other three.

We will never know Sam’s thinking, why a middle child was sent away and three were kept.

Ida snuck back into the country by 1914 and the family was reunited.  But Hannah carried that heartache throughout her life. While the rest of the family spent their lives in New York (and in one case Pennsylvania), Hannah soon went out to California, where she raised her family, grew old, and died.

Discussion

When I first heard this story, I judged Sam harshly.

How could a father send one child away and keep the others?

But age has changed my thinking. What once seemed like cruelty now feels like an impossible decision made in desperate circumstances.

I didn’t know Hannah, but I knew her sisters, and if she was like them, she didn’t let him off easy.

In the 1910 census, Aunt Yetta and her husband had five children, and by 1915 they had six. I understand they would not have been able to accommodate four young girls.

But my heart breaks for the family whose fracture never fully healed.

Figure 1 Hannah with her husband and daughter

Challenge

Has time given you perspective on the choices others have made?

AI Disclosure

This post was created by me with the help of AI tools. While AI helps organize research, the storytelling and discoveries are my own.

Next Week’s Topic: A Turning Point

Conflicting Clues

Conflicting Clues

I’ve adapted Amy Johnson Crow’s 52 ancestors in 52 weeks challenge.

Each week’s post follows my children’s ahnentafel numbering, which determines the featured ancestor.

This ensures no one until mid-sixth generation gets left behind.

52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: 2026 Week 09: Conflicting Clues

Introduction

My assigned Week 9 ancestor is Anna Brenda FRANK BIRNBAUM.

And “Conflicting Clues” turned out to be a particularly instructive one.

Was Anna a U.S. citizen?

Discussion

Anna was born in New York City in 1889. While I haven’t found her birth record, I have found her siblings’, and I have her with her family in the 1900 and 1905 censuses. She married Samuel Birnbaum, an immigrant, in 1906.

The following year, the 1907 Expatriation Act automatically revoked the citizenship of women who married non-citizens. Suddenly many women who had grown up here and never seen a ship were aliens.

Because Anna married in 1906, just before the law took effect, she may have narrowly avoided this automatic expatriation.

Imagine what that was like for them. Did it affect them socially? Did they feel disenfranchised from a place that had been their home for perhaps decades? And what would the consequences be? The act remained in place until the early 1920s – right around the time women gained the right to vote. Imagine fighting for suffrage only to learn your marriage disqualified you?

Imagine if I had seen Anna in 1910 listed as an alien and thought, “Well, that’s not my Anna.”

So, the moral of the story is, as Judy Russell, The Legal Genealogist, keeps reminding us, to know the laws in effect in the time and place of the event.

The law was largely (but not completely) repealed by the Cable Act of 1922. (Asians were still discriminated against.)

The National Archives has a helpful PDF at When Saying “I Do” Meant Giving Up Your U.S. Citizenship.

Challenge

Reexamine your no-brainers and look for incongruities which may have escaped notice previously. Investigate why!

You can look for:

  • Citizenship shifts
  • Border changes
  • Age discrepancies
  • Marital status laws

What conflicting clues are you dealing with?

AI Disclosure

This post was created by me with the help of AI tools. While AI helps organize research, the storytelling and discoveries are my own.

Next Week’s Topic: Changed My Thinking

A Big Decision

I’ve adapted Amy Johnson Crow’s 52 ancestors in 52 weeks challenge.

Each week’s post follows my children’s ahnentafel numbering, which determines the featured ancestor.

This ensures no one until mid-sixth generation gets left behind.

52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: 2026 Week 08: A Big Decision

Introduction

My assigned Week 8 ancestor is Samuel Birnbaum.

I never met the man – my husband’s grandfather – and my husband didn’t know him either, just met him once or twice, according to hubby.

So I’m not working off any personal knowledge, just research.

Samuel Birnbaum made two big moves in his lifetime, and I’m definitely curious why he did.

Discussion

An older man in a suit posing for a photograph

Samuel Birnbaum was born 18 April 1885 in Eperjes, Saros County, Hungary (now Prešov, Slovakia). On 24 February 1902, at age sixteen, he arrived in New York aboard the Kronprinz Wilhelm, stating he was joining his brother, Morris Berkovitz.

By 1906 he had married Anna Brenda Frank in Manhattan and established himself as a butcher. He filed his declaration of intent in 1909 and was naturalized in 1912.

After decades in New York City, Samuel, his wife, and their youngest son relocated to Los Angeles between 1940 and 1942, where he died in 1954.

Why did Samuel leave Europe for the US?

I don’t know the answer to this. Millions of Jews left Eastern Europe between 1880 and 1924, driven by economic hardship, antisemitism, conscription, and family networks. Samuel arrived in 1902, following a brother whose trail I have yet to uncover. That timing alone suggests he was part of that larger exodus.

What records might answer that question?
Passenger manifests sometimes note whether an immigrant had been in the U.S. before. Naturalization records can contain affidavits naming relatives. Hungarian civil records might clarify family structure and confirm the brother he claimed to follow.

What made Samuel move from New York to California at the beginning of World War II?

Moving across the country in your mid-50s isn’t a small decision. It suggests either urgency, opportunity, or family pull. Did the youngest son get a job and bring his parents? (The youngest son has proven more difficult to trace. I’ve found his WWII draft card and he worked for the Credit Service Bureau, which doesn’t seem to be war-related, but the 1950 census says he served in the armed forces.)

To move beyond speculation, I need to turn to the records. It’s time to pick up the threads here and braid them together.

Down the rabbit hole…

If you give a mouse a muffin, there are a bunch of tasks you need to do. And if you ask me about my grandfather-in-law, I remember some unexamined tidbits. But far better that, than running into a blank slate! Every unanswered question is an invitation. Off to research now!

Research Steps

To better understand Samuel’s two major moves, I plan to:

  • Re-examine his naturalization file for witnesses or supporting affidavits that might identify the elusive brother Morris Berkovitz.
  • Search passenger manifests and border crossings for alternate spellings of Morris’s name.
  • Compare New York City directories (late 1930s–early 1940s) with Los Angeles directories to narrow the exact year of relocation.
  • Revisit the youngest son’s World War II draft registration and service record for clues about residence or occupation changes.
  • Locate Samuel’s California death certificate and obituary to identify the informant and any extended family listed.

Big decisions often leave paper trails. My task now is to find them.

Summary

Samuel Birnbaum made at least two life-altering decisions: to leave Hungary for America in 1902 and to leave New York for California four decades later. I don’t yet know what drove those choices, but the historical context offers possibilities. For now, the questions remain. The next step is to test the records and see whether those big decisions left clearer traces than I’ve yet uncovered.

AI Disclosure

This post was created by me with the help of AI tools. While AI helps organize research, the storytelling and discoveries are my own.

Next Week’s Topic: Conflicting Clues

What the Census Suggests

I’ve adapted Amy Johnson Crow’s 52 ancestors in 52 weeks challenge.

Each week’s post follows my children’s ahnentafel numbering, which determines the featured ancestor.

This ensures no one until mid-sixth generation gets left behind.

52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: 2026 Week 07: What the Census Suggests

Introduction

My Week 7 ancestor is my mother, Elise West. Her mom was pregnant with her during the 1940 census, so I only had the 1950 to work with here.

And then I looked at the 1950 and regretted tying myself to a specific ancestor – as a nine year old, she had absolutely nothing interesting or surprising in her record.

But her neighbor – that was a different story.

Discussion

When I followed that page list, three doors down is where the story actually began. We have:

  • Ruth Acree, head of household
  • Lybrand Smith, Lodger
  • Susan M Smith, Lodger’s wife
  • Sophie J Turner, mother

But because my grandfather happened to fall on the census’s sample line, I noticed that Sophie had a note attached to her: that she was the mother of the head of household, not the lodger.

That’s a crucially important note for a researcher of either family! The census suggested how easily a family relationship can be misunderstood. Bless that enumerator, Elaine Gordon, for her attention to detail!

Challenge

What bonus clues and hints has the census given you? Has the enumerator given a more detailed birth place than required by the instructions? Was the age or birthdate very specific? We all have our terrible enumerator stories, but let’s think of a good one! Drop a comment below.

AI Disclosure

This post was created by me with the help of AI tools. While AI helps organize research, the storytelling and discoveries are my own.

Next Week’s Topic: A Big Decision

Favorite Photo

I’ve adapted Amy Johnson Crow’s 52 ancestors in 52 weeks challenge.

Each week’s post follows my children’s ahnentafel numbering, which determines the featured ancestor.

This ensures no one until mid-sixth generation gets left behind.

52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: 2026 Week 06: Favorite Photo

Introduction

My Week 6 ancestor is my father, Robert Anderson. While thinking about this post, the first photo that came to mind was a photo from my wedding. Then I went through my digital album of his childhood. His mom had so lovingly created an album for their first child and (joy) labeled the photos. But then I looked at the recent photo again and I knew I had to go with it.

Discussion

Many people like photos of themselves when they are young. I, myself, use a photo on LinkedIn which is *ahem* over a decade old.

But I just love this photo of my dad when he was in his 50s. This was at my wedding and doesn’t he just look pleased as punch? He is looking straight at the camera, wearing a suit and tie, with a big sincere smile.

He’d had a long and hard ride to that point, and afterwards, as well. But at this moment, you just see joy and pleasure in his face.

Challenge

My dad’s photo tells a different story of my wedding than my memory does. As the bride, I remember the things that went wrong. But looking at this photo brings to mind all the things that were right. Can you locate a photo where someone’s face tells a story?

AI Disclosure

This post was created by me with the help of AI tools. While AI helps organize research, the storytelling and discoveries are my own.

Next Week’s Topic: What the Census Suggests