52 Ancestors: An Unexpected Strength

An Unexpected Strength

I’ve adapted Amy Johnson Crow’s 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks challenge.
Each week I follow my children’s ahnentafel numbering to select the featured ancestor, ensuring no one through the mid–sixth generation is left behind.

52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: 2026 Week 21: An Unexpected Strength

Introduction

My Week 21 ancestor is Cywa “Sylvia” Bachrach.

As with her husband, Mordecai Gudelski, I never knew anyone who knew Sylvia, my husband’s great grandmother. But it’s clear to this generation that she left a lasting impression on her descendants.

When I first thought about “unexpected strength,” I imagined something visible: a crisis faced, a hardship overcome, a bold decision preserved in the records. But Cywa’s strength seems to have been quieter than that. It appears in what her children carried with them — not just across the ocean, but into the names they gave their own daughters.

Discussion

The records are sparse when it comes to Cywa. Although I have located birth records for some of her siblings, I have not yet found hers. What I do know is that she married Mordecai Gudelski in 1855 in Suwałki, Congress Poland, when they were both 19 years old.

She died in Suwałki in 1900.

Sylvia had nine children that I know of, and I’ve tracked six of them emigrating, likely pushed by the pressures many Jewish families faced in the Russian Empire: violence, instability, military conscription, and limited opportunity. What stands out to me is that of the six children I’ve been able to track, five named daughters Sylvia. (Yes, we always have to clarify when talking about “Cousin Sylvia.”)

Cywa must have had a tremendous impact on her children for them to honor her so, especially since I have not seen the same naming pattern for their father. I keep coming back to those daughters named Sylvia. In a family scattered by emigration, distance, and uncertainty, her name became a kind of thread — carried across oceans and into the next generation.

How hard it must have been to bid goodbye to child after child as they left for another continent, knowing she would likely never see them again. Cywa’s strength may not appear in the records as a bold public act. It may have looked quieter than that: raising children, surviving uncertainty, and letting them go when leaving may have been their best chance.

I cannot prove that every daughter named Sylvia was named directly for her, but the pattern is hard to ignore. Her name kept reappearing. That feels like its own kind of testimony.

We may not know much about Cywa “Sylvia” Bachrach’s voice, personality, or daily life. But her children remembered her. They carried her name forward. And sometimes, in genealogy, that is where strength reveals itself — not in what was written down, but in what a family refused to forget.

AI Disclosure

This post was created by me with the help of AI tools. While AI helps organize research, the storytelling and discoveries are my own.

Next Week’s Topic: A Name With Meaning

52 Ancestors: At the Cemetery

I’ve adapted Amy Johnson Crow’s 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks challenge.
Each week I follow my children’s ahnentafel numbering to select the featured ancestor, ensuring no one through the mid–sixth generation is left behind.

52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: 2026 Week 20: At the Cemetery

Introduction

My Week 20 ancestor is Szmujl/o Morthaj “Mordecai” Gudelski.

Discussion

I was lucky enough to find Mordechai’s death record indexed in LitvakSIG (bless them, and yes I donated!), which also linked to the actual record in the Polish State Archives!

Here is the index (he is the second hit; his wife is the first):

That Polish State Archive link brings me to the film scan, and I scroll through to deaths and then record 48, to find:

I got Russian translation help (Suwalki was Russian-occupied at that time) from some very generous volunteers:

So thanks to the detailed record – the parents, occupation, and location all jibe with what I expected – I now know I have precise death info.

But to the prompt – where was he buried?

To that, I’ll turn to AI: I opened up Gemini and asked,

A Jewish relative died in September 1914, in Suwalki town, Suwalki Uyezd, and Suwalki Gubernia. Where might he have been buried?

The LLM gave me very good information, broken down by burial site, surviving documentation, and historical context, all of which I’ve summarized below. Gemini suggested, with apparent confidence, that the most likely burial place was “Suwałki Jewish Cemetery (ul. Zarzecze), which was the primary and active burial ground for the Jewish community of the town and surrounding uyezd (district) at that time.”

Gemini suggested that Mordechai was most likely buried in the Suwałki Jewish Cemetery on ul. Zarzecze, the primary Jewish cemetery serving the town and district at the time. It also cautioned that the cemetery was badly damaged during World War II, with many matzevot removed or reused, though some fragments were later recovered and preserved in lapidarium walls. That answer gave me both hope and a reality check: I may never find his exact grave, but I may have found the place where he was laid to rest.

It suggested some archival organizations with which to follow up: JRI-Poland, The State Archives in Suwałki, and The Lithuanian State Historical Archives. After my next prompt, it also gave more specific info: links to the cemetery itself, and some key organizations involved in it: The Foundation for the Preservation of Jewish Heritage in Poland (FODŻ),  Virtual Shtetl / POLIN Museum of the History of Polish Jews, The State Archives in Suwałki (Archiwum Państwowe w Suwałkach), and Local Municipal and Historical Societies.

Finally, it offered help drafting emails to any of these organizations.

If it wasn’t past my bedtime (and this blog remaining to be polished and posted), I would go to another LLM for its opinion, and potentially a third LLM to ask it to compare the answers. (Try it, I promise it’s fun!)

It also gave me two links for this cemetery:
Google Maps: https://www.google.com/maps/place/Cmentarz+%C5%BCydowski+-+wej%C5%9Bcie/@54.0967374,22.9194432,469m/data=!3m2!1e3!4b1!4m6!3m5!1s0x46e10303f3866a31:0xd9eb008383360713!8m2!3d54.0967374!4d22.9194432!16s%2Fg%2F11sw4bnt36?entry=ttu&g_ep=EgoyMDI2MDUxNy4wIKXMDSoASAFQAw%3D%3D

The Cemetery, which apparently has a searchable database, which does not seem to turn up my person: https://www.cmentarzzydowski.suwalki.grobonet.com/#google_vignette

I may never find Mordechai’s exact grave. But knowing that there was likely one cemetery serving his community in Suwałki gives me something tangible: a place to imagine, a place to research, and maybe someday, a place to visit. For now, that feels like a meaningful step closer.

And finally, a super cool photo of the man in question (thanks to cousin Robert):

AI Disclosure

This post was created by me with the help of AI tools. While AI helps organize research, the storytelling and discoveries are my own.

Next Week’s Topic: An Unexpected Strength

52 Ancestors: A Question the Records Can’t Answer

I’ve adapted Amy Johnson Crow’s 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks challenge.
Each week I follow my children’s ahnentafel numbering to select the featured ancestor, ensuring no one through the mid–sixth generation is left behind.

52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: 2026 Week 19: A Question the Records Can’t Answer

Introduction

My Week 19 ancestor is Jennie Felder Frank.

As far as I can ascertain, Jennie immigrated from Austria to New York in 1887, when she was probably in her late twenties. I have never located anyone from her natal family in the United States. That absence has become the question at the center of this week’s post:

What did Jennie leave behind when she emigrated?

Jennie married Joseph Frank in January 1888, only a year or so after her arrival. Her marriage record says her parents were Joseph and Rosie, that she was twenty-four, and that this was her first marriage. Later records suggest she may have been closer to twenty-nine. Whether the discrepancy was accidental, practical, or intentional, it reminds me how little the records can tell me about how Jennie understood herself at that moment.

Her brief time in New York as a single woman makes her harder to trace. I do not know where she lived before her marriage, who helped her settle, or whether she arrived with friends, relatives, neighbors, or no one at all. I have not found members of her Felder family nearby. That silence makes me wonder whether her immigration marked a true separation from the people who had known her first.

Even her father’s name shifts across the records. Her marriage record names him as Joseph. Her death certificate names him as James, and the informant did not know her mother’s name. Her tombstone, however, preserves her Hebrew identity: Sheindel, daughter of Avraham Yosef.

Those clues suggest a sharp break between the old country and the new. In America, she became Jennie Felder Frank: wife, mother, widow, and grandmother. But before that, she was Sheindel, daughter of Avraham Yosef, born into a family and a world I can only glimpse.

So my question for Jennie is not only what she brought with her, but what she had to leave behind: family, language, customs, memories, expectations, perhaps even a version of herself that never fully made it into American records.

Closing

The records can tell me that Jennie crossed an ocean, married Joseph Frank, raised three children, lived with her daughter Anna after Joseph’s death, and was buried in Washington Cemetery. They cannot tell me whether she missed the people she left behind, whether she expected to see them again, or whether she spoke of them to her children. That is the question I would ask her: when you began again in New York, what part of your old life stayed with you?

ChatGPT, 04May2026

AI Disclosure

This post was created by me with the help of AI tools. While AI helps organize research, the storytelling and discoveries are my own.

Next Week’s Topic: At the Cemetery

52 Ancestors: Working for a Living

I’ve adapted Amy Johnson Crow’s 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks challenge.
Each week I follow my children’s ahnentafel numbering to select the featured ancestor, ensuring no one through the mid–sixth generation is left behind.

52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: 2026 Week 17: Working for a Living

Introduction

My Week 17 ancestor is Fanny Steinberg.

Discussion

How do I write a “working for a living” post about Fanny Steinberg? Like her husband, I have no direct records of her. I have to assume, though, that she was a traditional Jewish wife in the 19th century in Central Europe. Because no direct records have yet surfaced, this post takes a different approach: a historically grounded reconstruction of the kind of work Fanny may have done, based on the world she most likely inhabited.

The Work of Fanny Steinberg Birnbaum

The following is informed speculation, grounded in the documented experience of Jewish women living in the Austro-Hungarian Empire in the late nineteenth century. No direct records of Fanny Steinberg Birnbaum have been located; what follows imagines her life through the lens of the world she most likely inhabited.


We do not know the name of Fanny’s village. It may have been a market town in what is today Slovakia — one of those places that changed its name with every shifting border, that was Magyar on Monday and German on Thursday, and quietly, stubbornly Jewish every day of the week. The Austro-Hungarian Empire was a patchwork of languages and loyalties, and somewhere in that patchwork, Fanny Steinberg was born, grew up, married a man named Bernat Birnbaum, and built a life.

Her work was the household. But to call it that — the household — is to make it sound modest when it was anything but.


The Kitchen and the Calendar

Everything in Fanny’s domestic world was organized around two intersecting structures: the rhythms of the Jewish calendar and the laws of kashrut. Together they meant that her “work” was never simply cooking or cleaning in any generic sense. It was the maintenance of a system, a living architecture of rules that required constant attention and real expertise.

A kosher kitchen in a modest Austro-Hungarian Jewish household meant, at minimum, two complete sets of dishes, pots, and utensils — one for meat, one for dairy — stored separately, washed separately, never confused. It meant knowing which foods could touch which, which combinations were forbidden, how long to wait between a meat meal and a dairy one. It meant that shopping at the market was not simply a matter of price and freshness but of sourcing: the butcher she used was Jewish, his slaughtering shechitah, the cut inspected and salted to draw out the blood according to law. If she bought eggs, she cracked them one by one into a separate bowl first, checking for blood spots. None of this was performed mechanically. It was a practice, inherited from her mother, who had learned it from hers.

And then there was Shabbat.

From Thursday evening, the preparations began. Bread had to be braided — the challah, two loaves for each of the two portions of manna the Israelites received on Fridays in the desert, a story told in bread every single week. The house had to be cleaned. The best tablecloth, probably worn at the edges by now, had to be laid. Candles had to be readied. The Shabbat stew — a cholent, perhaps, heavy with beans and barley and whatever cut of meat the week had allowed — was assembled on Friday and carried, if they lived in a town with a communal baker, to the baker’s oven to cook slowly overnight, since no fire could be lit on the Sabbath itself. If there was no communal baker, it cooked in whatever arrangement could keep it warm till the next day’s midday meal.

On Friday, as the sun moved toward the horizon, Fanny lit the candles. She covered her eyes with her hands and moved them in three slow circles over the flames before pressing them to her face, drawing the light in. She spoke the blessing. In that moment, whatever the week had held — the arguing with vendors, the mending, the mud, the worry about money, the longing, the ordinary grief of living — was set aside. Shabbat had arrived.

This was also her work.


The Market and the Money

In many Jewish communities of Central Europe, the division of labor between husband and wife did not map neatly onto the Victorian ideal of the man who earns and the woman who keeps house. Jewish tradition, paradoxically, valorized male Torah study — ideally, a man spent his days learning — which in practice meant that women were often the economic actors, running small shops or market stalls while their husbands prayed and studied. The woman of valor praised in Proverbs 31, which husbands chanted to their wives each Shabbat eve, was explicitly a businesswoman: She considers a field and buys it; from her earnings she plants a vineyard.

We do not know if Bernat worked, or what he did if he did. We know almost nothing about him at all — not even that he survived to see his grandson Bernard born in 1908. If he died young, Fanny may have been left to manage whatever small livelihood they had on her own, as many Jewish widows did, with a quiet, practiced tenacity.

What seems likely is that she was not a stranger to commerce. On market days — typically once or twice a week in a provincial town — she would have gone out among the farmers and the traders, selecting vegetables, haggling, calculating. She knew prices. She knew who cheated and who didn’t. She knew how to stretch a small amount of money into a week’s worth of meals.


The Community of Women

Fanny’s world was not isolated. Jewish communal life meant that women moved through a web of mutual obligation and shared knowledge. There was the mikveh, the ritual bath, which she would have visited each month — a private practice embedded in a communal institution, maintained by the community, visited by all the married women of the town. There were the women who helped at births, who sat with the dying, who prepared the body of a woman who had died for burial. There were the charitable societies — gemilut hasadim — that every Jewish community organized to care for the poor, the sick, the stranger passing through. Fanny almost certainly participated in these, because in a community that size, everyone did.

She would have known her neighbors’ business and they would have known hers, not as intrusion but as the texture of interdependence. When someone’s husband lost work, when a baby was born too soon, when a daughter’s engagement fell apart — these things rippled through a small Jewish community the way a stone ripples through water. Women were the carriers of this knowledge, and also of the help that followed it.


The Son Who Left

Around the turn of the century, in 1902, her son Samuel left. He went to America — to New York, where other young Jewish men from the same region were already arriving by the tens of thousands, fleeing the combination of poverty, legal restriction, military service, and the periodic threat of violence that shadowed Jewish life in Eastern and Central Europe in those years. The pogroms of the 1880s sent waves of emigrants westward. Samuel was among them.

What it cost Fanny to watch him go, we cannot say. She never followed him. Whether she couldn’t, or was too old, or chose not to — whether Bernat was still alive and could not travel, or was already gone and she was alone — we don’t know. What we know is that her son crossed an ocean and built a life she would never see.

His children — her grandchildren — grew up speaking English, in a country she never visited. One of them, Sidney, would one day be asked about his grandmother, and name her: Fannie Steinhart of Czechoslovakia. He got the surname slightly wrong, the way family names drift in the retelling, but the country he gave her — Czechoslovakia, a state that didn’t exist until 1918, years after she would have given Samuel her last embrace — places her, approximately, in that part of the world.

She stayed. The borders changed around her. The empire dissolved. New nations were declared. And Fanny, whoever she had become by then — an aging woman in a town that now had a different name than the one she’d been born into — kept her kitchen kosher, lit her candles on Friday evening, drew the light toward her face, and carried the work of her life forward in the only direction time allowed.


This portrait is constructed from the historical record of Jewish life in the Austro-Hungarian Empire and its successor states, not from documents specific to Fanny Steinberg Birnbaum. Future research may yet surface records that confirm, complicate, or correct what is imagined here.

Thank you to Claude for this engaging reconstruction! If we know little about our ancestors, this helps us to feel more connected to them.

AI Disclosure

This post was created by me with the help of AI tools. While AI helps organize research, the storytelling and discoveries are my own.

Next Week’s Topic: Tradition

52 Ancestors: A Quiet Life, Redux

I’ve adapted Amy Johnson Crow’s 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks challenge.
Each week I follow my children’s ahnentafel numbering to select the featured ancestor, ensuring no one through the mid–sixth generation is left behind.

52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: 2026 Week 16: A Quiet Life, Redux

Introduction

My Week 16 ancestor is Bernat Birnbaum.

In error, I had done his grandson, Bernard Birnbaum, here. To make up for that, I am doing a brief redux post.

Since that Bernard post was later featured by Amy Johnson Crow, I’ve decided to let it stand, with this redux as the correction Bernat deserves. 😊

Discussion

It’s easy to write about Bernat’s quiet life, if I consider it An Unexamined Life. I have no direct records of Bernat (sigh, am I sensing a theme?). His son Samuel immigrated to the United States and left three records naming his father:

  1. On his marriage certificate, he named his father as Joe Bernbaum. A close up of a handwritten document

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  2. On his Social Security application, he named his father as Bernard Birnbaum.
  3. His death certificate (informant: his son) says his father was Bernat Birnbaum born Czec. I don’t believe Samuel’s son ever met Samuel’s father, so this information would be secondhand.

So at this moment, Bernard, or Bernat, or Joe, is unexamined. But if I have my way, he won’t remain so for long… “ChatGPT, draft me a research plan…”

Gemini suggests this research question:

Who were the parents of Samuel Birnbaum, born about 1885 in the region of present-day Slovakia or the Czech Republic, and what primary evidence identifies his father as the individual referred to as Bernat, Bernard, or Joe Birnbaum?

It suggested a three-phase research plan (along with specific record sources which I won’t replicate here):

Phase 1: Narrowing the Geography (U.S. Records)

Phase 2: Primary Evidence of Parentage (European Records)

Phase 3: Testing the Hypothesis That Bernat Died Before 1908

I have created a page in my Genealogy OneNote for this research plan and look forward to tackling this gap in knowledge.

Summary

Bernat Birnbaum’s life remains quiet not because it was uneventful, but because the records have not yet given him much of a voice. For now, he appears only through the documents of his son Samuel, under several possible names: Joe Bernbaum, Bernard Birnbaum, and Bernat Birnbaum. That uncertainty is frustrating, but also familiar in family history. A quiet life can still leave traces, and this redux is a reminder that even a mistaken turn can point the way toward the next research question. Bernat may be unexamined today, but he is no longer forgotten.

AI Disclosure

This post was created by me with the help of AI tools, including ChatGPT and Gemini. AI helped me organize the research question and think through possible next steps, but the genealogical reasoning, storytelling, and conclusions are my own.

52 Ancestors: A Quiet Life

I’ve adapted Amy Johnson Crow’s 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks challenge.
Each week I follow my children’s ahnentafel numbering to select the featured ancestor, ensuring no one through the mid–sixth generation is left behind.

52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: 2026 Week 16: A Quiet Life

Introduction

My Week 16 ancestor is Bernard Birnbaum.

Bernie was born in Manhattan and spent the early part of his life in Manhattan and the Bronx. By the time his family was well underway, his oldest child was ten and he was establishing his law practice. I have photographs of the family at the large Bronx apartment complex where they lived, a place that must have felt very much a part of city life. Busy streets, close quarters, constant motion — that was the world Bernie knew.

Figure 1 My husband at their Bronx apartment complex

Discussion

And yet, at some point, Bernie and his family made a different kind of choice.

They moved to Rockville Centre on Long Island. At the time, that move would have represented a real shift in daily life. The Long Island Rail Road and the Sunrise Highway were making it increasingly possible to live outside the city while continuing to work in Manhattan. For an attorney with a city practice, suburbia had become a plausible option.

Their children went to school there and, from that home, began building lives of their own. Rockville Centre offered something Manhattan and the Bronx could not: a quieter rhythm. More space. Tree-lined streets. A sense of retreat at the end of the day.

I find myself wondering what that felt like for Bernie.

What was it like to leave behind the noise of Manhattan each evening and return to a calmer neighborhood where his wife and children were waiting? Did the train ride home become a kind of boundary between his professional life and his family life? Did that quieter setting feel like a reward for years of work, or simply like the right place to raise a family?

Not every ancestor leaves behind dramatic stories. Some leave evidence of steadiness instead — the kind of choices that suggest responsibility, care, and the desire to build a good life for the people around them. Moving his family to Rockville Centre feels like that kind of choice to me. It may not have been adventurous, but it was meaningful.

Sometimes a quiet life is not empty of story. Sometimes it is the story.

Figure 2 A modern day Google photograph of the home Bernie and his wife raised their family in.

Summary

After retirement, when the children had left the nest, Bernie and his wife moved back to Manhattan. That detail feels especially telling. Perhaps the city had always remained part of who they were, even after the quieter years on Long Island.

I suppose Bernie was always of two worlds: the energy of the city and the peace of the suburbs.

His life may not read like an adventure tale, but it offers something just as valuable — a glimpse of how ordinary decisions shape a family’s history. In that sense, Bernie’s quiet life was not small at all.

AI Disclosure

This post was created by me with the help of AI tools. While AI helps organize research, the storytelling and discoveries are my own.

Next Week’s Topic: Working for a Living

52 Ancestors: Unexpected

Unexpected

I’ve adapted Amy Johnson Crow’s 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks challenge.
Each week I follow my children’s ahnentafel numbering to select the featured ancestor, ensuring no one through the mid–sixth generation is left behind.

52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: 2026 Week 15: Unexpected

Introduction

My Week 15 ancestor is Edith Makey West. When I thought about the theme “Unexpected,” I realized that her life was shaped by unexpected mothering in many forms: first when her aunt stepped in after her mother’s death, then when a stepmother took on that role, and later when Grandma herself helped raise my generation.

Discussion

We say, “It takes a village to raise a child,” but it really did in many ways. Grandma’s mother died when she and her siblings were young children, and her mother’s married, childless sister, Aunt Edith, stepped in to help raise the three of them. Grandma remained very fond of Aunt Edith and Uncle Peter for the rest of her life. Aunt Edith died relatively young, but my uncle remembered Uncle Peter, so clearly the families remained close.

Once Grandma’s father remarried, he and his new wife brought the children back and informed them, “This is your mother now.” Grandma did, in fact, treat the woman as a mother, including caring for her after Grandma’s dad passed away. When Grandma told me family stories, she would mention, “My mother” and I would clarify that she meant her stepmother. (Not to be mean, of course, but I wanted to attribute the family stories to the right person.)

Finally, after my mother left my father and took us with her, she went home to her parents. Grandma helped raise us while my mother secured her footing, returned to the workforce, gained financial stability, and generally settled into single parenting. I never, ever heard Grandma issue the slightest complaint about all this new responsibility for a retired couple.

Summary

Grandma once told me, while recounting the family history, that the men in her family had it tough. I told her I thought the women did too; they were simply expected to endure, adapt, and keep going.

What feels most unexpected to me is not a hidden record or a family story proven true, but the way mothering kept taking new forms in Grandma’s life. After losing her own mother, she was cared for by Aunt Edith. Later, a stepmother took on that role in the household. And when her own daughter needed help, Grandma stepped in to help raise the next generation. In the end, the unexpected discovery is that in our family, mothering was not always about who had the title, but about who showed up.

Walter, Harry, and Edith Makey

AI Disclosure

This post was created by me with the help of AI tools. While AI helps organize research, the storytelling and discoveries are my own.

Next Week’s Topic: A Quiet Life

52 Ancestors: A Brick Wall Shifted

I’ve adapted Amy Johnson Crow’s 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks challenge.
Each week I follow my children’s ahnentafel numbering to select the featured ancestor, ensuring no one through the mid–sixth generation is left behind.

52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: 2026 Week 14: A Brick Wall Revisited

Introduction

My assigned Week 14 ancestor is A. Gordon West.  About a year ago, I wrote a post about an unexpected DNA match.

This man was definitely related on my maternal grandfather’s (Ohio) line. Due to a rather unique surname and fairly recent immigration, his tree was easy enough to build out – and it didn’t intersect at all with mine, in terms of names. But it did in locations. I was left wondering if there was a MPE (misattributed parentage event) on either Grandpa’s line or this match’s line. Both men had somewhat suspiciously old mothers (age 40, with a gap to the next oldest children – certainly not impossible, but worth a second look) in their lineage.

Then vs. Now

Then: I didn’t chase that challenge down, having been disheartened by finding the death of the match. I suppose I didn’t want to find something offbeat in my own line. And I was uncertain how to be confident in any conclusion.

Now: I’m taking a DNA class in IGHR and this is the perfect time to look with a critical eye at these matches again. I’m learning and relearning the frameworks, and not just the basics but some good details on Y-DNA, mtDNA, atDNA, and X-DNA. Our exercises include analyzing our own matches and clustering shared matches to identify common ancestors.  We’ve also used The Shared cM Project 4.0 tool v4 to make sure centiMorgans were within the appropriate range. I noticed that I have a lot more matches than I did the last time I looked, so clearly more people have tests posted on the testing sites.

It’s definitely worth revisiting, with new knowledge and new data, to see what linkages I can now make.

The Plan

I’m going to revisit each shared match between him and me and build out trees to the best of my ability. I’ll draw pedigree charts, determine expected amounts of DNA shared, and compare those to the actual amounts. Somewhere there I hope to find a discrepancy, and that will be the key to this mystery.

Was I really stuck?

I wasn’t stuck because there’s no answer. I was stuck because I did not yet have the knowledge and data to solve the problem. Now, maybe, I do. And that changes how I see this brick wall: not as a barrier, but as something that can shift over time.

Sometimes a brick wall isn’t solved – it’s outgrown.

AI Disclosure

This post was created by me with the help of AI tools. While AI helps organize research, the storytelling and discoveries are my own.

Next Week’s Topic: Unexpected

52 Ancestors: A Family Pattern: Tall Tales

A Family Pattern: Tall Tales

I’ve adapted Amy Johnson Crow’s 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks challenge.
Each week I follow my children’s ahnentafel numbering to select the featured ancestor, ensuring no one through the mid–sixth generation is left behind.

52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: 2026 Week 13: A Family Pattern

Introduction

My assigned Week 13 ancestor is Rose Carey Anderson—my grandmother—and the family pattern I associate most strongly with her is a little light-hearted: tall tales.

Discussion

As soon as I developed a love for family history, my grandmother Rose was eager to regale me with family story after family story.

The problem is, they were all tall tales.

The baby brother who died in a fall down the stairs? Actually polio.

The uncle who disappeared one day, never to be seen again? He had drowned—and his body was brought back to his mother’s house.

The other uncle, the firefighter who died in a fire in the firehouse? (Wow.) Was what the newspapers called a “hobo” and died in a fire in a barn he was crashing in.

Her grandfather who had to leave Ireland or be hung as a horse thief? Almost certainly not.

Grandma’s pattern eventually became clear to me and it became a challenge to disprove each story about the family’s past, and really, I did.

For years, I treated these stories like puzzles, something to investigate and, more often than not, disprove.

But I wasn’t smart enough to put two and two and realize that the tales she told me about the current family might not stand up to examination either.

“F__’s last two children weren’t his.” Maybe. Maybe not.

“C__’s dad wasn’t her dad.” I was not given enough info and will never know.

“M__ was having an affair when he died.” Another thing I’ll never know.

So, I am pretty confident Grandma is looking down on me laughing at the wild goose chases I’ve been on!

And honestly, she’d probably still tell the stories the same way.

Summary

When I was a girl, “Trust but verify” was a popular saying, and it’s something any genealogist worth their research notes would do well to remember.

AI Disclosure

This post was created by me with the help of AI tools. While AI helps organize research, the storytelling and discoveries are my own.

Next Week’s Topic: A Brick Wall Revisited

52 Ancestors: An Address With a Story

An Address With a Story

I’ve adapted Amy Johnson Crow’s 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks challenge.
Each week I follow my children’s ahnentafel numbering to select the featured ancestor, ensuring no one through the mid–sixth generation is left behind.

52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: 2026 Week 12: An Address With a Story

Introduction

My assigned Week 12 ancestor is my paternal grandfather, Edward Anderson (1912–1985).

I’ve only ever known Grandpa to live at 60 Hillview Street, in Naugatuck, Connecticut. Of course, that wasn’t always the case – and it wasn’t even the plan.

Discussion

Grandpa was orphaned just days before his twelfth birthday. He and his two sisters were separated, each sent to different places. Grandma told me he lived with Uncle Jim and Aunt Lena for a time, but he seemed to spend much of his youth in “a home” – likely an orphanage, possibly St. Michael’s Home in Staten Island, New York.

By 1930, I found him as a young man rooming with two other young men, perhaps also without family support. He was working for a “rubber house,” where I believe he remained for the rest of his career.

By the next federal census, he had married, and he and his bride were living in Manhattan. They were still there in 1950.

Not long after, they moved to Staten Island, where I believe they purchased their first home.

At some point, Grandpa’s employer wanted to relocate him, but they chose not to go. The next time the company asked, Grandma told me, they felt they couldn’t refuse – they would be risking the household’s only income.

That decision brought them to Naugatuck, Connecticut, home of the United States Rubber Company. They bought what they considered a starter home: two bedrooms, one bath, and no expectation that it would be permanent.

Yet something about the house suited them. They made it their own. Grandpa lived the remaining 20 years of his life there, and Grandma stayed another 24 after that.

What they thought would be temporary became their forever home.

When my younger cousin once asked me for memories of Grandpa (she had been only a preschooler when he died) I told her about the walks he would take me on through that neighborhood. They knew their neighbors. Family settled nearby. It felt like a place where they had finally found peace.

I believe they were happy in that home.

Figure 1 Image from realtor.com

Challenge

What address has a special connection for you?

AI Disclosure

This post was created by me with the help of AI tools. While AI helps organize research, the storytelling and discoveries are my own.

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